While driving the kids somewhere the other day, this little phrase was uttered by my littlest person after an argument with her sisters had turned ugly. Lately, “Don’t Tell Dad” has been popping up more often in our house, and it got me thinking about the possible need for a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy when it comes to minor infractions.
Big things, yes – both parents need to be in the know and on the same page. A united front is the best defense against kids who are getting smarter by the day at finding the loopholes. But maybe we don’t have to share all the little things that don’t go perfectly during the day—a forgotten math assignment, being reminded by the teacher to keep hands to ourselves, some words said in a nasty way to the sisters…
Keeping some of these things between us actually builds a little trust, and often, the kept secret serves as the best motivation to shape up, or else Dad will need to be brought into the loop.
So as I thought about this in my car, I saw the police car turning on it’s flashing lights as I hurriedly pass by. This “Don’t Tell Dad” policy is starting to sound better by the minute.